Ok! So of course we are outside enjoying the end of Summer, playing a good old fashioned game of kickball. When I watch as one of the kids runs toward third base and in their excitement stops paying attention to what’s in front of them and runs into the gate. No big deal, they didn’t get hurt…and then comes the childhood battle cry, “IT’S YOUR FAULT!”. Now since I had the pleasure of watching this incident from start to finish, I took the privilege of intervening. But it made me think of how often adults today have the same battle cry from childhood when asked whose fault it is that America is “falling apart”. It is usually that same childhood battle cry…IT’S YOUR FAULT!”
This of course brings me to responsibility, or rather the lack of it, and makes me question the lessons that we are teaching our children. Let’s be real, often times we say to our children that they are being irresponsible, but children are truly a product of what they see (regardless of what we say). What our kids watch us do weighs heavy on their beliefs and future decisions.
There has been a push in the schools to tell our children to speak up when they see bullying going on, but how many adults have held on to information in some of the shootings and other crimes in our neighborhoods? People have blasted parents on Facebook and other Social Media for taking “harsh steps” in trying to discipline their children and make them responsible citizens. By the way, I’m not referring to a spanking as “harsh steps”, I’m actually thinking of things like a parent putting a note and blanket on the porch for the teenager who refuses to follow curfew in the home, that parent pays the bills for to keep over that teenager’s head. Then there is the parent who felt that since her child was being ungrateful and selfish, this parent chose to give away concert tickets that had been purchased for the kid.
Kids won’t become responsible individuals if no one steers them on a path that let’s them know, that there are rules to be followed and like it or not, they are responsible to follow them. It is “THEIR OWN FAULT,” if they don’t and therefore “THEY” will suffer the consequences. That being said, it is the responsibility of the adults around them to teach them these things by the way we live.
In the days of NO FAULT DIVORCES, it seems almost impossible for anyone to be at fault for anything anymore and that just doesn’t work. No matter how many meetings at the table we have or how many walks we do against issues, until we stop pointing the finger at everyone else and start taking responsibility for our own part in this place we call society, it will never get better and our children will never learn what responsibility looks like. So, contrary to our current “belief” system America when the question arises, whose fault is it that this country is in the state it is in, the answer is a collective one…IT’S OUR FAULT!